dealing with loss..

Have you ever lost someone dear to you.? Dear enough to mourn their loss for days, months, years?? Have you ever thought, why them? Why this pain to you? May be you thought over it, but had no answer.. weren’t keen on knowing it either.. all you cared was that you missed someone.. someone very dear to you.. someone who mattered, someone who made your life better.. someone who stood by you no matter what.. someone loved you back.. someone who cared for you too…
Didn’t you just think of every person you have lost..? may be it did bring a tear to your eye.. the memory.. the dearness.. the pain..
And yet I see some of you being so insensitive towards the attacks happened, and ya before you pounce on me, let me clear you one thing.. a life lost is life lost.. no matter where it is, Baghdad, Beirut, Paris or Chennai.. jus try and associate all the above feelings to person who lost someone dear.. why this rift between people, why this insensitive approach that this life lost should be valued more? Or why this outrage about you don’t care about these people, and express concern for someone else..? people have made me think over this.. why change your dp, how are things going to change because of it? Or for that matter does he/she know what this flag on the dp stand for..? yes, many may jus follow things blindly.. many may be ignorant.. but the symbolic gesture means, you care.. you care enough to take a step.. your gesture tells, you want to be a part of change, be a part of the pain, many have suffered, a gesture speaks a lot.. people who talk about, what will happen by doing this..? have you ever tried to actually do something rather than expressing your angst over something so simple and powerful.. I would really like to know, why this negativity? Why this approach..? is it because you have done things in past which haven’t yield the result you expected..? or you are a person, who will take it lightly if something similar happened to you, and the world rubs a cold shoulder on you?? God forbid, if you had to deal with this, and I presume that you have actually dealt with a loss in your past and someone said.. people die.. life goes on!! Or someone else too died, and their loss is much worst than yours..! I bet you will break their nose, if not anything else.. so guys please.. if you cant express solidarity.. don’t be a jackass either!

PK and Me..!!!!

saw PK twice.. ya today the second time.. you may think that it was obvious that I would watch it more than once.. but the truth is that I watched just so that I could write this, as you all know that I love Aamir Khan and hence my approach towards him would be biased.. it's true that I have always supported Aamir for every movie that he has done., now rises the question why am I writing only about PK..? cause many of the people (without seeing the movie) have had harsh opinions and taken it in the wrong way.. I am not planning on giving away the story of the movie.. but the very basic intend of it, to begin with.. have you ever wondered or did you question your parents while filling up any form in school or college.. that what was the use of caste.. religion that is put up, and what does it mean to you.. n why should you write that religion only? may be as a kid you just followed the norm of filling the form that was told to you, all your classmates, whichever religion they belonged to became your friends.. cause it didn't matter (which suddenly matters in your adulthood.. don't know why though) why wasn't mythology a subject in our syllabus?? cause it always has been personal choice and not mandatory aspect.. how does it biologically differentiate us? it doesn't.. you jus have different rituals.. but if you thought of it on a bigger scale, you'll know that a birth is celebrated.. a death is grieved.. marriage demands commitment.. these are mere examples.. 

coming back to PK.. his questions are innocent, and logical.. when I saw him praying to each god.. for his desires to be fulfilled, I saw myself.. saw my struggle.. how helpless I was.. how easily I was okay to do whatever it took, to save my mom.. I read bible to her in the hospital.. did 16 Tuesday and Friday for her to get well soon.. ya.. I who knew what medicines she was taking.. what the disease was doing to her.... but I was doin.. for the faith.. the hope.... we do this cause when we are helpless and aren't aware of what has to be done.. we blindly follow, no questions asked.. no reasoning required.. PK tells you to question.. makes you make sense.. a fact that every Aamir movie has made me a better person.. if you are capable of being one!

Now let me talk a bit about how Rajkumar Hirani has always tried to portray to be aware of this whole religious superficial stuff.. well, we all have seen Lage raho Munna Bhai.. you remember very well how the baba who said a girl having mangal shouldn't marry Sunny (Abhishek Bacchan's name in the movie) and yet in the last scene we all saw how Sunny survived!! 

then we saw 3idiots, doesn't Raju Rastogi (Sharman Joshi's name in the movie) remove all his finger rings before going to the interview.. so this is DEFINITELY not the first time that Rajkumar Hirani has made you aware of how in the name of god you are bein looted.. 

I do have a lot to write.. a lot of outrage in my mind too.. things like hindutva n all.. btw none of the religion teaches to practice violence.. none!! yet the outrage?? people that boast their religion, can I ask.. what actually have you done for it? besides perform the age old ritual that you blindly follow and ya, that too at your convenience.. sad but true. We update ourselves to the new technologies yet remain blinded to a few logical facts.. to my understanding about my own religion which is Hindu btw.. seems very astonishing that I a Hindu in Maharashtra would follow Ganpati more.. while Hindu's in Uttar Pradesh would pray Shri Ram or Shri Krishna.. while Hindu's in Bengal would pray to Durga Maa.. in Tamil Nadu, they would pray to Shri Balaji.. although all these gods just want you to be a better person eventually.. still so many Gods.. n so many different stories about them.. 

when I think of what exactly would happen if people decided to only vouch for their religion when it came to their profession, like a doctor said I will only treat patients of my religion.. or a teacher decided to teach only students of his religion.. we all agree that, this would be against humanity isnt it?? so why not always be a human first.. 

Nanhi si chirayya...

After a long time, I’m writing this.. and the inspiration behind these words is Swanand Kirkire.. for the amazing words he has written.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mr9lJDjy6M
also to Ram Sampat for the music that touches soul.. and a little bit to Aamir Khan too.. cz because of him this song was composed.. I assume!!
Having a child. a daughter, or son.. itself should be considered a blessing.. but we still have people around who kill the daughters before they see the sunlight, and then when they get a chance to see the world they are ill-treated, as daughters, sisters, mothers, daughter in laws.. whichever part they play.. they are suppressed under the society.

I do see change in the mentality.. but how exactly have things changed? Yea the major change would be my mom not saying, “ you have to do this.. because you are a girl” or jus, “after getting married.. your mother in law shouldn’t say.. haven’t your parents taught you this much??”
HaHa.. I know.. as you read you relate this sentence so very well..
they say.. I mean the society mostly…. That education can bring the desired change, little I doubt.. cause aren’t all those people educated enough to not ask dowry? Aren’t they aware that female feticide is a crime? And yet it has been happening.. it seems that to stop all this we need to have a better perspective towards girl child.. to be precise, the thought that my Meenakshi maushi (my aunt – mom’s sister) puts it forward that “every individual should be able to do almost everything.. cooking, washing.. simple day to day things, not because she is a girl she should cook.. but because at any given point of time one should be able to cater oneself well”
We all.. are educated yet.. at times, we tend to become narrow minded.. I’m not writing this as feminist.. or I have grudges against boys..
I’m brought in an household where equality is not jus preached but practised…. My brother cooks amazing dal.. and I love cricket.. these are just two examples, but it goes beyond this.. more or less it makes you respect the other gender.. makes you more understanding.. as a kid I always wondered why my granny wanted me to cook.. and not go out playing cricket, but dad n mom.. never had that kinda discrimination.
Its this upbringing that has made me better at understanding (I assume).
All in all….. jus wanted you all to think, that however educated you are.. or aren't.. your upbringing and the thoughts that surround you, make you a better person, there’s a fine example that I’ve seen.. a friend of mine, He had seen in his childhood how much his mom took efforts to run the home, manage office.. and now he wants to be the husband who would be helping his wife in the kitchen.
Progress I see.. no.. its jus his outlook… cz most of the guys would be like, if my mom managed cant you too??
Well..  on this note.. I leave you to ponder around the Nanhi si chiriya…